Covert Rejection…

Further study with Bill Gillham: Important to current events…

Anyone can see that little “Charlie”.. was overtly rejected by his parents… are we failing to see the rejected child’s self-image is shaped by his experience…so he winds up….FEELING… that his parents are perfectly justified in rejecting him…

He reasons he’d reject himself too… if the shoe were on the other foot… because he sees himself as a no-good bum…who doesn’t deserve to be loved…

Isn’t there a much more subtle form of rejection that’s rampant on planet Earth?…” covert rejection”… ( I highly recommend Charles Solomon’s… The Rejection Syndrome…Tyndale)… for an excellent read on rejection…

Looking at a case where a person is being overtly rejected… all the cards are up on the table.. in plain view… and by the teen years most children see very well they are being rejected…

In the case of covert rejection… most kids can’t discern what is happening to them… it seems to seep over their personalities like a slowly gathering fog they can’t identify… much less verbalize to somebody else…

So the emotional results are the same for both types of rejection the covertly rejected child might say…” I…FEEL… as if they don’t love me”… the overtly rejected child might say…” I…KNOW… nobody loves me…

Further Comments: how many people have I met through the course of my life with this situation… the subject of a divorce or a bad relationship comes up… a question gets asked…” why did your marriage or relationship fail”?… after some therapy… the person or persons go on to say…” I learned that I had been rejected at school as a youngster… which made me an outcast… further my parents had rejected me.. ( low grades wasn’t the best looking person).. made me a social misfit…” when my husband or wife… someone who actually seemed to love me came into my life… I rejected them because all I’ve known is rejection”… It’s called the Rejection Syndrome….

We’ve perpetuated the rejection of God or that God doesn’t exist in the schools often times in the homes…

My nine-year-old son came home with a story just the other day… he said…” me and some friends were talking about God and intelligent design versus Evolution and Big Bang Theory’s… ( he has one heck of a vocabulary)… I said how did it go?.. my son went on to say he had mentioned God as creating everything… he said his friends would have nothing to do with it… they said Evolution was true… and that basically God had nothing to do with it…

We wonder why we have the problems we do…

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